I cringe to think that we (myself included) could be losing sight of what friendship really is and what it means to have and be a friend.
"It is so easy to think we are staying in touch with friends this way when, in reality, the touch is often while we are simply brushing by them as we are rushing through our busy lives that are too crowded for meaningful contact." -- Lisa Welchel (caution regarding Facebook and Twitter)
"Friendship for Grown-Ups: What I Missed and Learned Along the Way" By Lisa Welchel
"...Friendship is a challenge. The vulnerability, trust, balance, grace, and time required to develop and maintain strong friendships do not come easily....
One day Lisa found that 'the desire to experience connection was stronger than the desire to be safe.' She determined right then to finally understand friendship: how to create one, sustain it, and experience the sheer joy of having it. But it wasn't easy.
Lisa writes from her heart and her head, sharing her story and helping women understand how to cope with the strengths and weaknesses of friendship, and basing all her advice on the foundation of our ultimate relationship with the Savior." -- Excerpts from the back cover
I was reminded that needing to need others is part of friendship. She helped clarify some areas that I need to improve on in being a friend. She discusses how to find safe friends, how to set healthy boundaries, and challenges the reader to get real... with themselves and with others.
Not only was this a book to read, it has become much like a handbook for me. It includes "Questions for Reflection" AND "Practical Steps for Developing and Growing Friendships" that accompany each chapter. In addition to those tools, it also includes 6 pages of conversation prompts to help you get to know a friend better.
Here's Lisa sharing about her book:
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Here's to defining, developing and deepening friendships for all of us!